Hello and welcome to Geeks Vs Loneliness, our spot on the site where we chat about things that may be affecting you, or people you know. Usual rules: we don’t have miracle cures. We’ve nicked all the best coffee. We have no biscuits. We just give a monkeys.
This week, just a quick natter about making a hasty decision. The kind of hasty decision that’s made when our brains are not at their finest. Perhaps one of the best examples is when you’re in a job, and things are going tough. That sometimes, you just want to throw in the towel and walk out.
But that’s the kind of decision that can come with significant life ramifications. We’re not saying don’t walk out if a job is making you very unhappy/ill, but we do advise the old adage of counting to ten, of sleeping on a decision. It’s the kind of choice that once made, often can’t be unmade. For better or worse.
Likewise, matters of family, of relationships, of friendships. Especially around people who see you at your most unguarded, it’s easy to snap, to say something hasty and regretful. To storm out, to do something impactful, without considering the consequences.
Of course, all of this is easy to write down, and much relates to heat of the moment situations, where logic has a horrible habit of going out the window. In the midst of those moments, finding even half a second of clarity to pause for thought is tremendously difficult.
But heck, it can be worth doing. Human beings are impulsive creatures, and there’s nothing abnormal about that. But also, if you feel too emotive to make a good decision, then don’t make one. There’s a line in The Sopranos that I’m going to badly paraphrase, where it’s said that it’s better to make a bad decision than no decision. I never buy that. As much as indecisiveness comes with its own consequences, taking a moment to gather yourself, working through a difficult situation and coming up with a thought-through answer is rarely not worth it.
Sure, there may be a note of temporary satisfaction to say ‘I’m out of here’, or something less polite. But six months down the line, struggling to make ends meet more than normal, it’s the kind of easy decision to regret.
Life can be a real struggle sometimes, and if you can relate to any of the above, we suspect it’s not going perfectly for you at the moment. Feel free to natter in the comments, share what you’re feeling and just let it out a bit. Remember, as impersonal as the internet may seem, every commenter is a human being. A human being who’s cared enough to write something.
You all stay awesome, and thank you very much for reading.